March 7, 2012
Calling All Mommas of 2+
I need your help!!
We are officially under the 40 day mark until Will is here! And I still have so many things floating around in my head. I need "been there, done that" input from you moms of 2+ on a few things! So, here is my random list of things that I need to hear opinions on!
We currently have a Summer Infant video monitor for Kate. I know for a fact that I still want/ need a video monitor in Kate's room. Our current model allows us to link up another video camera (which would be in Will's room) and I would only have one receiver for both kids. I'm not sure I'm keen on this idea. All I can think of is being totally exhausted, hearing someone on the monitor, and not being able to flip through the different cameras to realize which kid is awake/ stirring/ needs me. Because of this, I'm leaning towards getting an entirely different video monitor for Will and having two different receivers so I will better know who is causing the monitor to go off.
Am I crazy for having two separate monitors? Be honest please!
Also, after tons of research, I'm leaning towards a Motorola monitor if we get a new one. I'm specifically looking at this model. I'd love to hear reviews/ feedback if you have this monitor!
Living Room Gear
I know we will spend a good bit of time in the living room since we don't have a separate play room. I also know that with #2 you can't just lounge on the couch with a sleeping newborn all day! I'm going to have to put Will down for extended periods of time so I can play with Kate, cook dinner, pick up, etc.
I have this fear of Kate sitting on him in the bouncer or trying to tip him out of a swing. I'm leaning towards getting the Snugabunny Rock n Play Sleeper since it is a bit higher off the ground than a bouncer but doesn't seem as potentially dangerous as a swing + toddler!
What did you keep the baby in? Am I way over thinking this?
We plan to formula feed Will from the get go - just like we did with Kate. I think I probably need a few new bottles but I'm wondering what most do with bottle nipples. Just sterilize and reuse? I'd love to not have to buy all new bottle nipples but will if there is a good reason to do so. Also, did your younger child take the same bottles as your older child or did you have to find a new type of bottle for them?
I'm having a scheduled c-section that will most likely be first thing in the morning. I know I don't want Kate waiting in a germy hospital and I also want to see how I'm doing post surgery before having her come up to meet her brother (don't want to chance having her there and getting scared if I am sick or something). When did you have your older child(ren) come meet the new baby - keep in mind Kate will be 19 months? How often did they visit? Based on how things went, do you regret having them come up to the hospital? I've heard such mixed things on older siblings coming to the hospital and just want to hear from y'all to help Alex and I make our decision!
If you had a c-section, how long was it before you were picking up your toddler (Kate weighs about 22 pounds now)? Able to lift them in/out of their crib? Able to drive? I know a lot will depend on how my c-section goes but I'm pretty sure I have unrealistic expectations about how quickly I will return to life as normal. I've honestly forgotten what my restrictions were after I had Kate!
How long did you have, or feel like you needed, help at home? As of right now, it looks like we will have 3 weeks of help (MIL, my mom, and my sister) and then any time Alex takes off (which will probably be a week or two but not at once - more "filler" days between our family and then a week once everyone leaves). Did you need the help? Feel smothered by help? I'm assuming I'll want our family to help the most with Kate so she can still do "normal" things while I just try to survive those first few weeks but again, I may be way off here! Any advice, tips, etc is greatly appreciated.
Did you bring your older child to the new baby's pediatrician visits? We practically lived at the pediatrician with Kate due to her lack of weight gain and tummy issues so I have no clue what a "normal" newborn schedule is like, or if Will will be a "normal" newborn given his health issues. Again, I have no clue why this is something I am thinking about - so random!
Just how hard was the transition from one to two? Be honest people!
Thank you in advance to anyone who is willing to answer my possibly crazy questions and give insight to the world of two children! I think a big part of me is unrealistic in how easy the transition is going to go so I am trying to bring myself back to reality!